Emotionally Intelligent Leadership Training Course

Duration 5 days 10 modules · 33 contact hours
Level Intermediate Certificate on completion
Who attends New and experienced Managers, Team Leaders and others
Fee from USD 1,100 KSh 95,000 for Kenyan organisations
Where 52 cities + online See dates by city
Next start 16 Nov 2026 Course code SD-LD-256

Before you join: Participants should have experience working with colleagues, customers, partners or direct reports where communication and relationships affect results.

Dates & prices

Two start dates a month in every city, and live online on weekdays or weekends. Fees are per participant; classroom fees include tuition, materials, lunch and refreshments, and the certificate.

Suggest a date or city

Showing the next six months. Later dates, other cities and private deliveries for your team are available on request.

Course overview

Leaders set the emotional tone of meetings, decisions, performance conversations and change programmes. Under pressure, unmanaged reactions can reduce trust, silence dissent, prolong conflict and weaken judgement. Emotional intelligence provides practical disciplines for recognising emotional signals, regulating responses, listening accurately and responding to others without avoiding accountability or difficult messages.

This course develops the capabilities expected of an emotionally intelligent leader: self-awareness, self-management, empathy, relationship management and sound judgement under pressure. Participants examine triggers, assumptions and behavioural patterns; use structured approaches for feedback, conflict, psychological safety and change communication; and practise responding constructively when colleagues are anxious, defensive, frustrated or disengaged. The course also addresses power, bias, trust repair and the leader's responsibility for the climate experienced by their team.

Instructor-led teaching combines concise briefings with realistic leadership cases, facilitated discussion, paired practice, group analysis and simulations of challenging conversations. Cases reflect issues such as missed commitments, disputed decisions, resistance to restructuring, poor performance and cross-functional tension. Participants receive feedback on observable communication choices and leave with a 90-day emotional intelligence action plan, supported by practical templates for reflection, feedback and difficult conversations. A certificate of completion is issued.

The course is suited to managers and specialists who lead people, influence stakeholders or work in roles where judgement, communication and relationships directly affect delivery. It is particularly valuable for leaders moving from technical authority to broader people responsibility.

What you will be able to do

  • Assess personal emotional triggers using event-appraisal-response-consequence mapping
  • Apply emotional regulation techniques during pressured meetings and difficult decisions
  • Use active listening, emotion labelling and perspective-taking in stakeholder conversations
  • Build psychological safety through specific leader behaviours and team agreements
  • Deliver and receive feedback using the SBI model and feedforward requests
  • Handle conflict using Thomas-Kilmann mode selection and de-escalation language
  • Communicate change with stakeholder emotion maps and sensemaking messages
  • Produce a 90-day emotional intelligence action plan with progress measures

Benefits of attending

For you

  • Clearer recognition of personal triggers before reactions damage relationships
  • Practical language for feedback, disagreement, apology and trust repair
  • Greater composure during scrutiny, conflict and uncertain decisions
  • Stronger ability to read stakeholder concerns without making assumptions
  • A measurable 90-day plan for visible leadership behaviour change

For your organisation

  • More constructive performance and accountability conversations between managers and staff
  • Earlier escalation of risks, concerns and dissenting views within teams
  • Reduced avoidable conflict caused by defensive communication and poor listening
  • More credible change communication during restructures, technology rollouts and policy shifts
  • Improved retention and engagement through fairer, more respectful manager behaviour

Course modules

10 modules over 5 days

Participants can identify the emotional intelligence domains and connect them to observable leadership behaviour.

  • Emotional intelligence domains: self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, relationship management
  • Distinguishing emotions, moods, traits, and observable leadership behaviours
  • Goleman's four-domain framework linked to managerial decisions and conduct
  • Recognising emotional triggers through event, appraisal, response, and consequence mapping
  • Separating intent from impact when interpreting colleague behaviour
  • Using precise emotion vocabulary to improve self-observation and communication

Participants can use structured reflection to identify patterns that affect their leadership response.

  • Johari Window feedback requests for reducing leadership blind spots
  • Trigger log entries linking situations, assumptions, body signals, and responses
  • Distinguishing cognitive distortions from evidence during pressured decisions
  • ABC model: activating event, beliefs, consequences, and alternative interpretations
  • Mindfulness STOP technique before consequential conversations and meetings
  • Values audit identifying non-negotiables, trade-offs, and likely stress points

Participants can regulate their emotional response and choose proportionate actions in demanding situations.

  • Emotional regulation sequence: notice, name, normalise, and choose
  • Reappraisal techniques for changing interpretations without denying valid emotions
  • Box breathing and grounding methods during acute stress responses
  • Implementation intentions using if-then plans for recurring pressure points
  • Impulse-control pause protocols for emails, meetings, and difficult decisions
  • Recovery routines balancing workload, sleep, boundaries, and social support

Participants can listen for facts, feelings, needs and interests without premature judgement.

  • Three levels of listening: internal, focused, and global attention
  • Paraphrasing, summarising, and emotion labelling without premature advice
  • Open questions distinguishing facts, interpretations, needs, and requests
  • Perspective-taking through stakeholder maps and competing legitimate interests
  • Nonverbal cues assessed cautiously across hierarchy, culture, and individual differences
  • Empathic boundaries: acknowledging feelings without accepting inappropriate conduct

Participants can create conditions that encourage candour, challenge and respectful participation.

  • SCARF model: status, certainty, autonomy, relatedness, and fairness signals
  • Psychological safety behaviours: invite input, acknowledge fallibility, respond productively
  • Emotionally literate meeting check-ins matched to team circumstances
  • Power-distance effects on speaking up, disagreement, and challenge
  • Repairing trust after broken commitments, exclusion, or dismissive responses
  • Team working agreements covering candour, confidentiality, and escalation

Participants can give, receive and request feedback with clarity, respect and accountability.

  • SBI feedback model: situation, behaviour, impact, then dialogue
  • Feedforward requests focused on future choices and observable actions
  • Nonviolent Communication sequence: observations, feelings, needs, and clear requests
  • Receiving criticism by clarifying examples, impact, and desired change
  • Appreciation expressed specifically, promptly, and proportionately to contribution
  • Written feedback calibrated for tone, ambiguity, and power dynamics

Participants can address conflict directly while preserving dignity, working relationships and clear boundaries.

  • Conversation preparation using purpose, outcomes, concerns, and evidence
  • Thomas-Kilmann modes selected according to stakes, relationships, and time
  • De-escalation language separating the person, problem, and proposed next step
  • Naming tension directly while preserving dignity and mutual respect
  • Boundary-setting scripts for unreasonable demands, incivility, and repeated breaches
  • Apology and repair protocol after leadership mistakes or harmful impact

Participants can communicate change in ways that address uncertainty, concern and stakeholder resistance.

  • Stakeholder emotion mapping for restructures, technology changes, and uncertainty
  • Sensemaking messages distinguishing known facts, unknowns, and decision dates
  • Kotter's change principles interpreted through employee emotional responses
  • Resistance diagnosis: loss, threat, mistrust, overload, or insufficient capability
  • Leader visibility plans combining listening channels, updates, and follow-through
  • Rumour response protocols correcting misinformation without false reassurance

Participants can recognise emotional and cognitive influences on judgement and respond ethically under pressure.

  • Emotion data considered alongside operational evidence in consequential decisions
  • Amygdala hijack indicators recognised before high-stakes reactions escalate
  • Confirmation bias and fundamental attribution error challenged through disconfirming evidence
  • Ethical decision screen: stakeholders, harms, duties, and defensible rationale
  • Speaking-up responses when values conflict with senior direction
  • Decision debriefs separating process quality, outcome, and emotional residue

Participants can convert course learning into a focused development plan with accountability and measures.

  • Personal emotional intelligence baseline using structured reflection and feedback
  • Development priorities selected through impact, urgency, and behavioural feasibility
  • 90-day action plan with triggers, practices, measures, and review dates
  • Accountability partnership agreements defining observation, challenge, and confidentiality
  • Manager conversations requesting feedback on visible behaviour change
  • Progress measures combining self-ratings, stakeholder feedback, and team indicators

Exercises and examples are adapted to each cohort's sectors and roles.

What you take back to work

  1. Emotional trigger log template
  2. Event-appraisal-response-consequence reflection model
  3. SBI feedback conversation planner
  4. Difficult conversation preparation checklist
  5. Stakeholder emotion map
  6. 90-day emotional intelligence action plan

Who should attend

  • New and experienced Managers — need reliable methods for leading people through pressure and change
  • Team Leaders — set daily standards for communication, trust and accountability
  • Senior Managers — influence culture through visible decisions and leadership conduct
  • Project Managers — manage competing stakeholder interests, uncertainty and cross-functional tension
  • HR Business Partners — support managers handling feedback, conflict and employee concerns
  • Technical Specialists — broaden people influence beyond subject-matter authority

Skills and tools covered

Emotional self-awarenessSelf-regulationEmpathic listeningFeedback conversationsConflict managementChange communication

Tools and standards

Goleman's Emotional Intelligence framework, SCARF model, Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument, SBI feedback model

How the course runs

Training methodology

The course uses short instructor briefings to introduce models, followed by leadership cases, facilitated discussion, group exercises, simulations and structured reflection. Participants analyse situations involving feedback, conflict, pressure, resistance and trust repair, then test alternative responses in a supportive classroom setting. Trainers provide observation-based feedback on language, listening and emotional regulation choices. Individual application planning connects the methods to current leadership responsibilities, stakeholder relationships and recurring pressure points.

Requirements and prerequisites

Participants should have experience working with colleagues, customers, partners or direct reports where communication and relationships affect results. Some exposure to meetings, feedback, performance conversations, project delivery or stakeholder management is useful. The course assumes participants can reflect candidly on their own behaviour and discuss realistic workplace situations respectfully. No previous emotional intelligence training, psychology qualification, psychometric assessment or formal people-management role is required. It is not a clinical mental health course or a substitute for counselling, mediation or employee relations advice.

A typical training day

08:30 – 10:30First session
10:30 – 10:45Refreshment break
10:45 – 12:30Second session
12:30 – 13:30Lunch and networking
13:30 – 15:00Third session
15:00 – 15:15Refreshment break
15:15 – 16:30Workshop and daily review

Live online deliveries follow the same structure in East Africa Time, with shorter screen blocks and longer breaks.

What the fee includes

  • Instruction by a practitioner facilitator
  • Full course workbook and materials
  • Exercise files, templates and case studies
  • Refreshments and lunch on classroom deliveries
  • Certificate of completion
  • Post-course application plan

Frequently asked questions

Experience working with colleagues, stakeholders or direct reports is expected, but no previous emotional intelligence course is required. Participants should be willing to reflect on their own communication and discuss workplace situations constructively.

Bring examples of recurring leadership situations, such as a difficult relationship, a feedback issue, a pressured decision or an upcoming change. You will not be required to disclose confidential or sensitive details.

It is designed for managers, team leaders, project managers, senior specialists and HR professionals who influence others. It is suitable for both new managers and experienced leaders seeking more consistent interpersonal judgement.

The course concentrates on the emotional processes behind leadership behaviour: triggers, self-regulation, empathy, trust, conflict and reactions to change. It applies communication methods specifically to emotionally charged workplace situations.

Participants leave with reusable templates for trigger reflection, feedback, difficult conversations and stakeholder emotion mapping. The final module produces a 90-day action plan with behavioural measures and review dates.

The course runs from 08:30 to 16:30 each day, providing about 6.5 contact hours daily. Ten sequential modules cover self-awareness, regulation, listening, feedback, conflict, change, judgement and application planning.

Questions about this course?

Ask about dates, fees, group bookings or running it for your team. Our training team replies by email.