Emotional Intelligence and Negotiation Skills Training Course

Duration 5 days 10 modules · 33 contact hours
Level Intermediate Certificate on completion
Who attends Managers and Supervisors, Project Managers and others
Fee from USD 1,100 KSh 95,000 for Kenyan organisations
Where 52 cities + online See dates by city
Next start 16 Nov 2026 Course code SD-PE-023

Before you join: Participants should have experience of workplace meetings, stakeholder discussions, team coordination, customer interactions or commercial conversations.

Dates & prices

Two start dates a month in every city, and live online on weekdays or weekends. Fees are per participant; classroom fees include tuition, materials, lunch and refreshments, and the certificate.

Suggest a date or city

Showing the next six months. Later dates, other cities and private deliveries for your team are available on request.

Course overview

High-stakes conversations can deteriorate quickly when pressure, uncertainty, competing priorities or perceived disrespect trigger reactive behaviour. Managers, specialists and client-facing professionals must remain composed while interpreting others accurately, addressing conflict directly and securing workable agreements. Poor emotional control can damage trust, delay decisions, weaken commercial terms and turn routine disagreements into formal disputes.

This course develops the emotional intelligence, conflict management and negotiation disciplines needed for demanding workplace conversations. Participants assess personal triggers, regulate stress responses, listen for interests behind stated positions and give direct feedback without unnecessary escalation. They prepare negotiations using BATNA, ZOPA, objective criteria, stakeholder mapping and concession strategies. The course also addresses power, authority, ethics, remote discussions, cultural assumptions and deadlock management.

Teaching combines focused instructor briefings, realistic cases, small-group analysis, structured discussion, negotiation simulations and individual reflection. Cases include supplier disputes, budget negotiations, performance conversations, project delays, service failures and cross-functional disagreements. Participants build a personal pressure-response plan, a difficult-conversation script and a negotiation preparation pack for a current or anticipated workplace matter.

The course is suited to professionals who already participate in meetings, stakeholder discussions, project decisions or commercial conversations and now need greater control and influence when stakes rise. It is particularly relevant where participants must protect relationships while challenging assumptions, resolving conflict or negotiating commitments.

What you will be able to do

  • Assess emotional triggers using the ABC model and a personal stress signature
  • Apply cognitive reappraisal and implementation intentions during pressured workplace conversations
  • Use active listening, empathy statements and Ladder of Inference checks
  • Deliver corrective feedback using SBI, DESC and feedforward techniques
  • Diagnose conflict patterns using the Thomas-Kilmann conflict mode framework
  • Prepare negotiations using BATNA, ZOPA, objective criteria and stakeholder mapping
  • Construct package offers, conditional proposals and planned concession exchanges
  • Produce a personal application plan for high-stakes conversations and negotiations

Benefits of attending

For you

  • Greater composure during criticism, disagreement and time pressure
  • Clearer preparation for salary, scope, budget and supplier negotiations
  • More credible feedback conversations with colleagues and direct reports
  • Improved ability to recognise interests behind stated demands
  • A repeatable method for recovering after difficult professional interactions

For your organisation

  • Fewer avoidable escalations from reactive communication and unresolved conflict
  • Better-quality agreements through disciplined preparation and concession planning
  • Stronger working relationships across functions, clients and suppliers
  • More consistent management of sensitive performance and service conversations
  • Improved decision speed when stakeholders disagree on priorities or terms

Course modules

10 modules over 5 days

Participants can recognise emotional triggers and choose deliberate responses under pressure.

  • Salovey and Mayer ability model distinguishes perception, understanding, regulation and use
  • Trigger mapping identifies situations that narrow attention and impair judgement
  • ABC model separates activating events, beliefs, consequences and response choices
  • Physiological arousal cues inform early intervention before reactive behaviour emerges
  • Emotion-labeling vocabulary improves precision when describing internal states and social signals
  • STOPP technique creates pause, observation, perspective and purposeful response

Participants can assess the habits, assumptions and values shaping their workplace behaviour.

  • Johari Window compares known, hidden, blind and unknown behavioural information
  • 360-degree feedback themes distinguish intent, impact and recurring behavioural patterns
  • Values clarification tests non-negotiables against competing performance and relationship demands
  • Attribution checks challenge mind-reading, overgeneralisation and fundamental attribution error
  • Reflective after-action reviews capture triggers, choices, outcomes and alternative responses
  • Personal stress signature records bodily, cognitive and behavioural warning indicators
  • Emotional granularity differentiates irritation, disappointment, anxiety, anger and contempt

Participants can use practical regulation techniques before, during and after stressful conversations.

  • Box breathing stabilises attention before consequential conversations and contested decisions
  • Cognitive reappraisal reframes threat appraisals without denying legitimate operational risks
  • Implementation intentions specify if-then responses for predictable pressure triggers
  • Window of tolerance guides pacing, breaks and return-to-task decisions
  • Response delay protocols prevent impulsive email, chat and meeting interventions
  • Recovery routines address sleep, workload boundaries and post-conflict decompression

Participants can listen for facts, emotions and interests while testing assumptions respectfully.

  • Active listening distinguishes content, emotion, meaning and unspoken interests
  • Minimal encouragers, paraphrasing and summarising demonstrate accurate reception
  • Open, probing and funnel questions test assumptions without interrogation
  • Non-verbal congruence aligns facial expression, voice, posture and message
  • Empathy statements acknowledge experience without agreeing to facts or demands
  • Ladder of Inference exposes data selection, interpretation and conclusion jumps

Participants can address performance, conduct and relationship concerns with clarity and respect.

  • DESC script structures descriptions, effects, specifications and consequences
  • SBI feedback separates situation, observable behaviour and measurable impact
  • Feedforward requests focus discussion on future choices and support needed
  • Radical Candor balances direct challenge with demonstrated personal care
  • Boundary statements define acceptable conduct, escalation points and consequences
  • Repair attempts restore working relationships after missteps or tense exchanges

Participants can diagnose conflict dynamics and select proportionate resolution approaches.

  • Thomas-Kilmann modes diagnose competing, avoiding, accommodating, compromising and collaborating responses
  • Conflict mapping separates people, process, interests, positions and structural constraints
  • Interest-based problem solving converts fixed positions into negotiable needs
  • De-escalation language lowers defensiveness through acknowledgment, choice and procedural fairness
  • Conflict escalation stages signal when informal resolution requires formal referral
  • Third-party facilitation agreements establish neutrality, confidentiality and speaking rules

Participants can prepare a structured negotiation plan with clear limits and priorities.

  • BATNA analysis establishes alternatives, reservation points and walk-away decisions
  • ZOPA estimates identify plausible agreement ranges before parties exchange proposals
  • Negotiation planning sheets separate issues, interests, options, criteria and concessions
  • Objective criteria use market data, policy, precedent and technical standards
  • Stakeholder mapping identifies decision makers, influencers, blockers and implementation owners
  • Concession strategy trades variable value instead of making unilateral price reductions

Participants can exchange proposals, test priorities and build mutually acceptable agreements.

  • Anchoring sets reference points while avoiding unsupported or damaging opening demands
  • Package offers create trades across price, scope, timing, risk and service
  • Multiple equivalent simultaneous offers reveal priorities without premature disclosure
  • Calibrated questions surface constraints, authority limits and unstated interests
  • Conditional proposals use if-then language to protect reciprocity and commitment
  • Silence, summarising and tactical pauses improve information quality and decision discipline

Participants can manage power differences, ethical risks and procedural challenges in negotiations.

  • Power analysis assesses legitimate, expert, reward, coercive and network sources
  • Authority verification prevents agreements exceeding delegated mandate or approval limits
  • Ethical negotiation distinguishes persuasion, omission, deception, coercion and improper inducement
  • Cross-cultural preparation tests assumptions about hierarchy, time, directness and face
  • Remote negotiation protocols manage technology, turn-taking, documentation and private caucuses
  • Deadlock procedures define adjournment, escalation, mediation and BATNA activation

Participants can plan, conduct and review high-stakes conversations using course methods.

  • Conversation architecture links preparation, emotional regulation, inquiry, proposals and closure
  • High-stakes case diagnosis identifies triggers, interests, power and decision constraints
  • Negotiation debriefs compare planned strategy, observed behaviour, outcome and relationship effects
  • Written agreement checks confirm owners, milestones, contingencies and communication channels
  • Personal application plan selects two workplace conversations, measures and review dates
  • Peer accountability arrangements schedule follow-up, reflection and adjustment after implementation

Exercises and examples are adapted to each cohort's sectors and roles.

What you take back to work

  1. Personal stress signature and pressure-response plan
  2. Difficult conversation preparation checklist
  3. SBI and DESC feedback script templates
  4. Conflict mapping worksheet
  5. Negotiation preparation and concession planning template
  6. High-stakes conversation application plan

Who should attend

  • Managers and Supervisors — handle performance issues, competing priorities and team conflict
  • Project Managers — secure commitments and resolve delivery disputes across stakeholder groups
  • Procurement and Contract Professionals — negotiate commercial terms while preserving supplier relationships
  • Sales and Account Managers — manage client expectations, objections and renewal discussions
  • HR and People Professionals — conduct sensitive employee conversations and support conflict resolution
  • Technical and Subject-Matter Specialists — influence decisions without relying on formal authority

Skills and tools covered

Emotional self-regulationConflict diagnosisDifficult conversationsActive listeningNegotiation preparationConcession management

Tools and standards

Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument, BATNA, ZOPA, Ladder of Inference

How the course runs

Training methodology

Instructor-led sessions combine short conceptual briefings with case analysis, group exercises, structured reflection and negotiation simulations. Participants examine common pressure points such as missed deadlines, supplier claims, performance concerns, budget constraints and client dissatisfaction. Facilitators provide observation-based feedback on listening, emotional regulation, conflict responses and bargaining choices. Individual application planning connects course methods to upcoming workplace conversations. Classroom delivery is available in more than 50 cities, with the same instructor-led format also offered live online.

Requirements and prerequisites

Participants should have experience of workplace meetings, stakeholder discussions, team coordination, customer interactions or commercial conversations. They should be willing to reflect on their own communication habits and discuss realistic professional situations. Familiarity with basic negotiation concepts is helpful but not assumed; BATNA, ZOPA, concession planning and conflict frameworks are introduced during the course. No psychology qualification, counselling training, sales background or formal management role is required. Participants may bring a current non-confidential conversation or negotiation they need to prepare for.

A typical training day

08:30 – 10:30First session
10:30 – 10:45Refreshment break
10:45 – 12:30Second session
12:30 – 13:30Lunch and networking
13:30 – 15:00Third session
15:00 – 15:15Refreshment break
15:15 – 16:30Workshop and daily review

Live online deliveries follow the same structure in East Africa Time, with shorter screen blocks and longer breaks.

What the fee includes

  • Instruction by a practitioner facilitator
  • Full course workbook and materials
  • Exercise files, templates and case studies
  • Refreshments and lunch on classroom deliveries
  • Certificate of completion
  • Post-course application plan

Frequently asked questions

Participants should have experience of normal workplace discussions, meetings or stakeholder interactions. No formal negotiation, psychology or management qualification is required, and core frameworks are taught from first principles.

Bring a current or anticipated non-confidential workplace conversation, conflict or negotiation if possible. This could involve a supplier, client, colleague, direct report, project stakeholder or budget holder.

The course suits professionals whose results depend on communication, influence and agreement with others. It is relevant to managers, project professionals, procurement teams, account managers, HR practitioners and technical specialists.

This course concentrates on emotional control, conflict management and negotiation when stakes are high. It uses methods such as BATNA, ZOPA, Thomas-Kilmann, SBI and DESC rather than focusing primarily on presentations or routine business writing.

Participants prepare methods for real situations such as performance discussions, service failures, scope changes, supplier claims and competing priorities. The final application plan identifies two conversations, intended actions, measures and review dates.

Each training day runs from 08:30 to 16:30 and provides approximately 6.5 contact hours. The five days progress from emotional intelligence and self-regulation through conflict management, negotiation preparation, bargaining and application planning.

Questions about this course?

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